It really is about being yourself

Don't try to be congruent with the game, make the game congruent with you.
You just have to find out who you really are, and the best way to know is through women because as a man you'll only see it rationally and logically. Whereas your personality is truly emotional.

Find out what experiences shaped you, and how they shaped your tastes, have a reality-check of your true standards, and don't be indifferent to them. The rest is just being a man, and covering that up ;)